I don’t like the look of stale food and I wouldn’t eat it either. Why would I…when I know it’s just going to make me sick to my stomach? I love food so this was the perfect analogy to use in regards to how I feel about my standards. It’s also a great way to point out how you should feel about yours. Most people have them, whether they realize it or not. It’s the factor in which you draw the line and say, “ok. I just won’t accept that.” Some people’s standards are higher than others and that’s fine. It’s all about your comfort zone and where you draw the line between that and the other side– the point of no return. The reason why I chose to write about this particular topic today is because many times we forget what it is that we originally set out to do and we settle. we’ve all done it at some point in our lives but what’s most important is whether or not we recover from it. Some of us never do…we get stuck and never leave. We get stuck in someone else’s comfort zone because we became ok with leaving ours. We forget what it was that we were so passionate about and we conform to someone else’s image of who and what they want us to be. Now, there is a such thing as meeting in the middle and it’s called compromise but when you completely forfeit your standards, often times…you lose you. Today, I want to apply this both to the business world and relationships.
First, let’s talk business.
We’ve all been impatient at some point or another in life and we’ve all taken a job solely based on income. What we don’t realize is that will only keep us happy for so long. When you take a job in a field that you’re not passionate about in hopes that you’ll learn to love the job that’s the first big business mistake that you’ll make. Why? Well eventually you’ll get tired of going into a job that you’re not passionate about and then the money will no longer be worth it. It’ll be the first big lesson that you’ll learn as an adult. Be honest with yourself. Look ahead a few years and ask yourself before accepting a job,”do i see myself working here long-term?” If you’re just accepting the job for money purposes then my advice to you is to not build your life around your new budget. Save it and try to live on as little as possible during that time period while cleaning up your credit or whatever it is that you need the money for because after the fascination period has run it’s course you’ll be stuck in a job that you realize is not at all worth the money and it’ll be difficult to leave as you’ll have to find something of equal or better pay and benefits before you can leave due to the lifestyle that you’ve built around that. If you feel like you know what your calling is and you’re passionate about that, sometimes it’s best to the take the job with the unfavorable pay in the beginning if it’ll get you to where you want to be in the long run. You’ll be more satisfied overall. Impatience only gets you temporary happiness and disappointment later. Know Yourself and stay true to what it is that you want. Don’t waste your time unnecessarily on things that won’t matter later on down the road. You don’t owe anyone anything but yourself.
When dealing in Relationships….
Know Your Worth
Never let anyone put you in what i call a “box”. I hate to feel like someone’s putting me in a box, whether it’s business or relationships. I don’t consider myself a stagnant person and don’t mesh well with stagnant people. When someone tries to put you in a box, It means they’re trying to stop you from growing and they don’t want the situation to evolve. They’re content with things the way they are and want you to settle for that. It’s 2015 and you do not have to settle for something or someone that you don’t feel fits in the puzzle that is your life; that goes for men and women. Life is so short and you only get one shot. Stay true to yourself. If something doesn’t seem right, it probably isn’t. If it doesn’t feel right, it’s not right for you. Choose You. Choose Happiness. Do not stay in any relationship whether friendship or romantic that no longer serves a purpose in your life. You don’t want drama in your life…then guess what? You don’t have to deal with people and their drama. Know Your Worth and stop giving discounts to the unworthy. If someone can’t see the benefit of you being in their life then walk away. It’s a two way street. Negativity evolves when we let it evolve. If two pieces of a puzzle don’t fit…then one of the pieces are in the wrong puzzle. I’ll leave you with that.
Stay Ambitious, Stay Motivated!