Is Twitter ruining your relationship?
I’m not going to sit here and say that social media ruins relationships, however, I’ve had my share of spats across various social media websites. Facebook, Twitter and I recently got rid of my personal Instagram because quite frankly I was sick of seeing things that I did not want to see go down my timeline. At this time in my life, if I’m not using it to brand myself and my business then I don’t need to be on the internet like that. I did keep my Facebook because I communicate with my family on there and it is the only social network besides LinkedIn that’s attached to my real name. My main reason for trimming down my social media use is “lost time” on things that are not as important as I was making them. One can easily lose hours of productivity on social sites by simply doing nothing else but “keeping up” with what everyone else is doing. Essentially, that’s what social media is for right?
Not exactly. I prefer to use social media to educate myself with what’s going on in the world outside of the state where I live and to simply learn things that I did not know before that’ll benefit my business and career. The examples that I just gave are ways that we can use social media proactively, however, I for one have been used by the social media monster. Yes, I’ve partaken in more than one argument on social media since its big expansion. Off the top of my head, I’ve gotten into an argument on Facebook twice (both times provoked) and I had a twitter beef that lasted almost all of last year even after withdrawing myself from the foolishness and creating new pages the negativity followed me to the new pages. After a while, I just took a much needed break from Twitter and made my way over to Instagram which I grew to have a love-hate relationship with after a while.
My biggest fault with social media is the very reason why I like it. It makes information about anyone and anything readily available at your fingertips and disposal. I’m a journalist, so I pay more attention to detail probably more than the average person and have uncovered many truths about people via the internet. The spats that I have partaken in have not only been over romantic relationships. I’ve fallen out with friends over things that were said on the internet too. If we have to argue on the internet, that’s like arguing on national television and that’s a big no-no in my book—that’ll pretty much get you cut permanently out of my life.
I like to think that I’m an open book but there are some things that everyone doesn’t need to know. I’ve become much more reserved over the last year, but I do see that some people still get caught up in the craze of social media and let it use them in a negative way. I’m guilty of all the things that I’ve mentioned above including the unintentional “spying” (and we all do it). So why do we partake in the spats, the dishing of dirt and take so much interest in what’s going on with everyone else’s life? I believe it’s an attention-seeking trait. All of us have it –believe it or not—and some worse than others but we would have never known had it not been for social media. Even the shyest person can become a completely different being on the internet. The fact that you can pretty much be whoever you want online is exhilarating to “boring Brenda”. Watch an episode of Catfish and it’ll prove everything that I’m saying here today.
The internet is the poor mans “reality TV show” and it gives the average person an opportunity to star in their own drama. People take the number of followers that they have as fame and success but some of them haven’t done anything useful to have that large of a following. We’re living in the world of the Kardashians where you can exploit yourself in the worse way possible and be looked up to more than someone that’s making an actual difference in people’s lives.
Personally, not only do I believe that Twitter is ruining relationships, I believe the internet is ruining real relationships. Familial, friendships and romantic relationships aren’t as intimate as they use to be pre-internet age. Texting and instant messaging can be fun but I appreciate a phone call more and even more, bonding in person. I feel like everyone is so impersonal and insensitive these days and social media is to blame. I’ve seen the internet do a lot of good as well, in regards to, branding for businesses and creating more opportunities for people in general. If I leave you with anything today, please know that it’s ok to take a break from social media and to simply LIVE YOUR LIFE. Everyone doesn’t need to know EVERYTHING about you and you don’t need to know everything about everyone. Chris Brown said it best (in my favorite song ever sung by him–Heart to Heart), “everybody’s business ain’t nobody’s business,” and that’s 100. When spending quality time with your loved ones, it’s OK to go off the grid. I’ve been doing that a lot more lately and it’s rather refreshing.
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