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Tuesday’s Talk: Do you HAVE to be in a relationship?

Me and the bae chilling and staying warm #HotChocolateFlow *"Bae" no where to be found in photo
Me and the bae chilling and staying warm #HotChocolateFlow
****”Bae” no where to be found in photo

Like most people, I have three main social media accounts. Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. What I notice to be the consistent topic on all of them is romantic RELATIONSHIPS. Why does the world put such an emphasis on finding YOUR happiness within someone else? I’ve seen it growing up and now I see it everywhere as an adult.

Well I’ll tell you this, there’s nothing wrong with expressing that someone makes you happy but you should also know how to be by yourself as well… and it seems that a lot of people DON’T.  I think it has a lot to do with personality type (Click here to find out your personality type) for instance, I’m an ENFJ. Which in simpler terms means that I’m mostly an extrovert (I get life from being around other people) but almost half extrovert, half introvert. I value my space and I’ll be damned if I stay with someone for the sake of having someone.

I’ve always held my happiness on the highest pedestal and I’m just not wired to stay in situations that puts restrictions on what type of person that I am or just flat out makes me unhappy. If the bad outweighs the good, then I can’t stay with someone for the sake of staying with someone. However, I’ve seen people put up with the worse treatment (and blame it on love) just to HAVE someone. Why is that? Why is it that society can’t live without the illusion of Love and Relationships?

What’s your opinion on this? Feel free to leave your comments below! Let’s have a discussion about this. Let reflect on why we put as a society put so much emphasis on Love and Relationships. Enlighten me guys and gals!

8 thoughts on “Tuesday’s Talk: Do you HAVE to be in a relationship?”

  1. Unlike others I Do Not have to be in a relationship just for the simple fact im ok with being alone, I feel the more time you have being single the more time you have to find yourself as an individual and what truly makes you happy instead of forcing yourself to be with someone cause society and social networks telling you, you aren’t worthy enough to be with. Well I know im worthy enough I just have to sort and figure out the things I would like in a significant other to make sure we dont waste each others precious time and what better way in doing that in being alone for sometime getting yourself together to be a happier you then another miserable Ex!

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  2. Society has primed us (women) from the very start to find a fairy-tale love, get married and live happily ever after. This can be so far from reality, yet we strive so hard to find true love because we think finding love will bring us happiness. I am a firm believer that you have to truly be happy with yourself first. There is absolutely nothing wrong with finding someone who you enjoy spending time with and fall in love with, but the key is to be happy with yourself first. You should NEVER rely on somebody else to make you happy (key word “rely”). It’s not fair to the other person, and it’s not fair to yourself. Once you fall in love with yourself and understand your self-worth, you know what man is right for you and what you truly deserve. I think the girls who stick around too long in an unhealthy relationship are the ones who don’t have a grip on their self-worth and are too afraid to let go. Leaving someone is hard; it’s one of the hardest emotions to cope with, but you have to rationalize when a relationship has gotten too unhealthy and when it’s time to go. There are bigger and better things than to sit around miserable with someone you aren’t meant to be with. What’s meant to be, will be. And come on girls, stop settling!

    One of my favorite Carrie Bradshaw quotes: “Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.”

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  3. Society has primed us (women) from the very start to find a fairy-tale love, get married and live happily ever after. This can be so far from reality, yet we strive so hard to find true love because we think finding love will bring us happiness. I am a firm believer that you have to truly be happy with yourself first. There is absolutely nothing wrong with finding someone who you enjoy spending time with and fall in love with, but the key is to be happy with yourself first. You should NEVER rely on somebody else to make you happy (key word “rely”). It’s not fair to the other person, and it’s not fair to yourself. Once you fall in love with yourself and understand your self-worth, you know what man is right for you and what you truly deserve. I think the girls who stick around too long in an unhealthy relationship are the ones who don’t have a grip on their self-worth and are too afraid to let go. Leaving someone is hard; it’s one of the hardest emotions to cope with, but you have to rationalize when a relationship has gotten too unhealthy and when it’s time to go. There are bigger and better things than to sit around miserable with someone you aren’t meant to be with. What’s meant to be, will be. And come on girls, stop settling!

    One of my favorite Carrie Bradshaw quotes: “Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.”

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  4. I think it is a good idea to get to know yourself first before trying to make something with someone else. If you do not know yourself how can you ever be happy with someone else? Getting to know what you want and what you expect out of your mate helps you to not lose out on time with someone who you have nothing in common with.

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    1. Agreed. I think our twenties is a great time to date around and find what it is that you really like and if you do find something that you like hold on to it. Other than that, never waste too much time with one person. It’s always been the motto

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  5. I agree with all, women nowadays try to be that everything to man but dont take recognition that they are not being everything to themselves the worst thing you can do is base your gratification on how satisfying you can be to someone who can care less that your giving your all thats why we must know our self worth and appreciate everything we are to ourself and being alone we as women will learn and discover a whole new world to ourselves as an individual mom, sister, friend, wife, and/or girlfriend and once we discover this a happier next we can enjoy!

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